Ah, the mysterious art of wooing. How do we avoid ending up as one of those guys that girls talk about when asking the question “why do I attract all the weirdos?!”.
I’ve got some ideas on how we can be charming not cringey and below are my eight tricks of “wooing wisdom”…
However, a quick disclaimer. I am also male and so, whilst I have some level of dating experience, I’m also as close to understanding women as I am to understanding Einstein’s Theory of Relativity, explained to me in Russian.
1.Get to know her
Call me old fashioned but I think it’s easier to woo someone if you actually know them.
Some of the best relationships I’ve seen are built on an initial friendship that forms a stable foundation for romance to grow. So, if you know her, move to stage two. If not, it might be worth getting to know her better first.
Chivalry might sound old-fashioned but think of it more as kindness, generosity or being polite. Treat her well. Girls are likely to appreciate you putting them first and they’ll also take note of how you treat others – like your Mum or the waiter serving your coffee.
3. Be on her mind.
Now, there is a fine line between being in her phone and being a nuisance. It is probably good to send her the occasional message to keep up communication, but she probably doesn’t need a running commentary on your day or your feelings.
4. Be dependable.
It is good to be trustworthy.. You don’t want to be repeatedly rearranging plans or cancelling things, because in times of crisis, she wants to know that she can count on you (and so will be more likely to see you as boyfriend material!).
5. Be honest and open.
This doesn’t mean spew all your life problems out at her, but don’t be a closed book. It’s not fun having to guess what a person is thinking and feeling, so be ready to open up a bit when the time is right.
6. AVOID THE FRIEND ZONE!
Speaks for itself really…
7. Flirt with her.
This can be gentle teasing, small actions of physical touch, focused attention or playful comments to subtly let her know how you feel. However, try not to go into full on creepy mode. Let’s be honest, we all know where the line is!
8. Tell her what you think of her.
Tell her what you like about her. It’s simple but goes along way. Be brave, take the risk and you never know what it could lead to.
9. Talk to her friends about her.
It is helpful to have her friends on side. . So, tell them how much she means to you and they’ll know you’re in it for more than something fun but short-lived.
10. Ask her out.
If, after all of these steps, you think she could be interested in you, it’s time to take the plunge.
It’s time to ask her (FACE TO FACE), if she’d like to go out with you. And that’s when it gets really tricky…