From Posh and Becks to Will and Jada, we often look to people in the public eye as perfect role models. From my perspective growing up, my parent’s relationship was perfect. Aside from a couple of slammed doors and the usual arguments, they were a great team. They were married for 25 years before my dad sadly passed away a couple of years ago.
Now that I’m in my twenties, I have a better insight into my parent’s relationship than just the “perfection” I saw as a child. I’ve learned lessons from their resilience that I now apply to my own relationship. Here’s what I learned from them!
Make time for each other
When I was seven, we moved from the East Midlands to the South West. At the time, I didn’t realise that we moved for the sake of my parent’s marriage. My dad worked away a lot, and my Mum was lonely. I learned from mum and dad that sometimes relationships require sacrifice. Make the move, take the risks, give your partner the time. Your relationship is worth it.
Make time for yourself
Throughout my childhood, my parents always had their own hobbies and interests. My dad spent his Saturdays supporting our local rugby team, while mum would visit her parents, go to a gym class or get stuck into some sewing. On Sundays, they’d spend the day together. Sometimes this meant watching my brother play sport, other times they’d watch shows together on the sofa. Watching my parents, I learned that it’s important to take time for yourself in your relationship as well as time together.
Support your partner through the good, the bad, and the ugly
My parent’s relationship had challenges. My dad was very ill in the last year of his life. My mom was there for him during his treatment and the horrible side effects of his medication. Even in the toughest time, my parents were a team. They have become my relationship role models – because they knew what it was to commit to each other through the good, the bad, and the ugly.