The good news is that every married couple has had to go through the life-after-honeymoon phase and most have survived to tell the tale. Even for Harry and Meghan (really they are just like us, minus the constant press-intrusion) life will take on a new meaning when they start life together as a married couple.
My husband and I tried desperately not to treat this period like a hangover from the highs of the wedding and honeymoon (with varying success depending on what day you were asking), so here are some of my tips for surviving this period:
1) Embrace the change. Your relationship will feel different from how it felt during your wedding and honeymoon, so welcome the difference.
2) Love the grass on your side of the fence. Don’t listen to that voice in your head comparing your relationship with others.
3) Don’t automatically expect chores around the house to be gender-based. Work out what works for you both and switch it up if you need to.
4) Arguments are part of the marriage package, so fight fair! This is easier said than done, but it helped us to try to agree in advance on how we would like to argue when the inevitable disagreements come up.
5) Make date night a priority. This will help establish great habits for when life gets busier in the years to come.
6) Find time to hang out with friends and family. It’s good to make time to connect with others together.
7) Sexy time is crucial bonding time. So you may not be sexy-timing as much as at the start of your relationship (kudos if you are), but don’t let it get to the point where you’re struggling to remember when last you had sex.
8) Space is a good thing. This was something I struggled with initially. I almost felt rejected when my husband wanted to do stuff on his own, but I’ve now realised it’s actually healthy and shows that we are mature enough to appreciate our need for space.
Honestly, this period is not so bad and it really does make you feel all warm and fuzzy inside when you’ve both seen it through. It actually made me less apprehensive of the future and – dare I say – excited about what’s to come.