Everyone wants to be with someone they not only like the look of, but love to spend time with – someone they can trust and laugh with. Don’t you? This means looking deeper than outward appearances. When you’re choosing who to date, do you have your priorities straight?
Whether we realise it or not, we all have a mental checklist, and when we meet someone new, we’re probably assessing if they meet our standards. This isn’t always a bad thing. It’s healthy to know what’s important to us. But certain things should mean more to us than others, and this is where we need to have our priorities straight if we want to end up in the right relationship.
Priority 1: Look for someone who knows their worth
Of course, it’s also important that you understand your own self-worth. You deserve love just as much as anyone else. When you understand this, you’re more likely to recognise this in others. If you both understand you’re worthy of love, you’re less likely to look to each other for validation and affirmation, and this is a strong foundation for a relationship.
Priority 2: Personality really does matter more than looks
Social media encourages us to prioritise what looks good over what’s underneath. I know you’ve heard it before, but in this day and age, it’s even more important. Nice filters make us look flawless, and we tend to share pictures that make us look fun and interesting. We can’t help but exaggerate who we are and what our lives look like. The problem is, if you’re actually looking for a partner to share your life with, you’re going to need to be real. The online facade won’t get you through tough times together, but a history of being real with each other, will.
Priority 3: Find out what they’re passionate about
Take the time to get to know the things someone is passionate about, the way they respond to situations, and the way they interact with others. Discovering what (and who!) someone loves tells you a lot about them. And this is not just any information – it’s the really important information. The kind that tells you if they’re the one for you.