So you might have been aware of the phenomenon around a lot last year called “ghosting”. It’s basically when the person you are in contact with (usually via social media etc.) just stops talking to you and disappears. Basically a really jerky way of saying you aren’t interested. Well, this year we’re sorry to say that there is something potentially worse on the ‘dating block’.
‘Breadcrumbing’, is defined by Urban Dictionary as “the act of sending out flirtatious, but non-committal text messages (ie “breadcrumbs”) in order to lure a sexual partner without expending much effort”.
People who do this will make sure they throw you enough likes on Instagram, the odd DM here and there to make sure you maintain interest but not enough to actually be in a relationship. They will wait until they think you may be moving on and then send you that flirty message just to mess with your head. It’s crazy because the amount of effort they are putting into that, they may as well just be dating you in the first place!
“These ambiguous digital crumbs are enough to remind you that the person is alive, and may even hint at a future meet-up,” says Refinery29, “but never get to the nitty gritty of whether they actually want a relationship.”
Apparently, there are a few reasons why someone would want to do this. The New York Times explains, “There’s breadcrumbing when you’ve broken up with someone but you don’t want to let them go; there’s breadcrumbing as a way of keeping a dating prospect on hold or there’s breadcrumbing as a kind of game: when a person is ‘not interested in you, but interested in themselves staying relevant to you.'”
What a joke! Guys and gals, don’t waste your time with these kind of people! Stop playing Hansel and Gretel and find someone who actually is willing to put some effort into pursuing a relationship with you!