From self-care to self-love, today’s buzzwords rightly encourage us to take time for ourselves in our day-to-day lives. However, self-care, self-love, and staying committed to yourself seems easier for single people than those in relationships. So how do you stay committed to yourself if you’re in a relationship?
If you’re in a relationship, It’s easy to become dependent on your partner and forget how to meet your needs in other ways. Even if you want to spend every waking moment with them, self-love and self-care mean spending time apart. It can even strengthen your relationship – absence makes the heart grow fonder!
My boyfriend of 2 and a half years and I have always agreed that the key to staying committed to each other, is committing to time apart. Since we moved in together spending quality time apart is as important to us as spending quality time together. In our day-to-day relationship, we think about how we can stay committed to ourselves and committed to each other. Here’s our advice!
Libby says… have something to do that’s specifically for you. From friends to hobbies, you share a lot of things in a relationship. To make true time for yourself, having a hobby or interest of your own is the easiest way to achieve this. Every week, I go to a language class on my own.
Gareth says… schedule time spent in separate rooms. As a cohabiting couple, we spend our spare time in each other’s pockets. And sometimes, this becomes a pain in your backside. I think it’s important to take time out from each other even in the house. This might mean getting on with separate chores or even watching different channels on separate screens.
Libby says… go on dates with yourself. Take yourself out for lunch, watch that film you’ve been dying to see at the cinema or go for a walk around the park on your own. It might seem awkward at first, but there is so much life to be found in learning to love your own company!