Holidays were made for romance. For the first time in months, you can be who you are without a giant to-do list hanging over your head. The sun is out, you are meeting new people, you’ve had enough sleep, and flirting no longer has to be crammed into a few hours on Friday and Saturday. But with holiday romance comes an inevitable end. Cute strangers can become a major source of heartbreak if you don’t know what you want. So here are some tips on how to stay safe and happy.
Nobody thinks they’re going to get an STD on holiday, but it’s when you need to be the most careful. After all, do you really know this person? How do you even ask for that cream in Spanish?
Play nice at the hostel
So, true story, my friend lost his virginity at a hostel in Hanoi. The six other guests in the room cheered him at the end, but most guests aren’t going to be that – supportive? – and you will probably get a lot of nasty looks at breakfast (if you aren’t kicked out).
If you fall in love with a guy who is studying in Australia and you live in London, it’s probably not going to work out. Look out for yourself: if you thinking you are developing feelings that won’t work out in the long term, end it.
Mind your drink
Everyone knows the stereotype of Brits on holiday abroad, and the simple fact is that you need to be more careful when you’re in a foreign country. Don’t get so drunk that you can’t tell that the handsome stranger talking to you is taking your cash with your phone number.
Don’t abandon your friends
I have an (ex) friend who I went to Vietnam with when I was nineteen. Two days into our two months abroad she was ‘in love’ with an American boy and I was thrown by the wayside as she went travelling with him instead. When we got back to London, their relationship was over – and so was our friendship.
Use the opportunity to learn
It’s easy to get into a rut at home, always dating the same type of person who thinks and likes the same things. Dating on holiday is your chance to meet people with different ideas, ambitions, beliefs, and lifestyles. Take the chance to open up your perceptions of the world by really talking to new types of people.